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Selina, a 17 years old girl, now is staying with her grandmother in a destitute condition after the divorce with her husband. At the age of 13, before…
Assisting Women to Raise Their Voice Against Domestic Violence
Selina, a 17 years old girl, now is staying with her grandmother in a destitute condition after the divorce with her husband. At the age of 13, before preparing mentally, physically and psychologically for the responsibility of the marriage, she was forcefully got married with Shahabuddin, a man of 35. According to her saying “The only reason my husband’s family got married their son to me because they need a servant- that’s all”. His husband, mother in law and father in law badly beaten up her for any single mistake in daily chores but she had to tolerate everything since she had no place to live and no job to do for not getting any education. Besides, her paternal family never gave her any good food to eat and well dress to get up. Thus she became very sick physically and mentally during her pregnancy period and consequently gave birth a dead baby boy. Then after few days her husband gave her divorce and married again.
Selina is by no means unique. In fact, this type of violence against women is the common event in our society. The practice of early marriage and violence against women and children were very frequent events at the Bashantapur village of Kaligonj. By realizing the fact that these type of activities have really a bad effect on the society that has led a sick culture, an Upazila Women Affairs Officer had come up a with a thought to stop these violence against women and children. To do so, at first she tried to find out, what are the background causes of this violence and got
- Due to financial dependency on men, women tolerate domestic violence and can never play a preventive role against it
- Lack of power and control, as well as traditional behavior and social norms make women reluctant to come in Upazila Women Affairs Office with their problem to seek help
- Administration was not enough conscious to prevent violence
There was no statistical data/information on the incidence of violence of all kinds against women and children which makes difficult to identify perpetrators to punish them and victims for any further support.
To identify the victims, a survey has been conducted. Through this survey a database containing the information about victims has been made to assess the necessary support to them. For empowering women so that they would not become the victim of such violence and can protest against it as well as different trainings on the basis of their need are provided them to become more self confident, financially independent.
The program can able to bring a significant and positive change in the economic, reproductive health and familial life of the women. After implementing the project, the women become more self-confident and self-reliant. Victims like Selina, who have lost all hopes of their life, now start to believe that they can also lead a normal and independent life. Moreover, some other gaining has achieved, such as
- The rate of violence is reduced significantly by 60%
- Women become self-reliant to prevent violence against them
- Also women become financially independent by taking various trainings and starting small business and less dominated by men